In the Day 3 post, I talked about home and whether being happy on my own, far from home, made me selfish. If you read it, you’d know I sound quite sad and guilty in the post. The post elicited some wonderful comments from my blog-mates and helped me explain myself to myself. I’d like to share one such comment with you. Thanks Annie for this one:
I’d like you to consider the underlined sentence in the above comment, because that brings us to today’s topic.
Home is a person. If you’re lucky, home is yourself.
All my life, I have complained that no one understood me. Not my parents. Not friends. Not cousins. Not nobody. I had tastes I did not find common with anyone else: I loved reading story-books – my mother would call that a waste of money and storage space (Don’t judge her by that, please, because she was all up for buying textbooks. Reading for pleasure was something she did not understand). I liked writing. Almost none of my friends did. I enjoyed solitude, no one else cared.
Most of my life I have spent in futile attempts of finding a person with whom my wavelength matched, someone who could understand me without me having to explain everything. As it is, I am my own best friend. Not so long ago, I joked with a friend, “I’d rather marry myself than someone else.” The best thing about being your own best friend is that you know yourself. You know what pleases you and you know what hurts you. You try to prevent situations which may make you feel bad. You do things for yourself that no one else would do.
Even as a child, I was okay if I had to be away from home without my mother. My mother thought this was a selfish trait. To this day when I go somewhere, though I miss home very much, I can get equally comfortable wherever I am, if I choose to. So hell, yes, home is indeed a person. And I am one lucky gal!
What about you? Is the closest relationship that you have is with yourself? Let me know in the comments.
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I’d rather marry myself than someone else too! Haha… I get the fact that you’re your own best friend. Sometimes it’s futile to expect to be understood by others. Instead, the joys of understanding oneself can be so much more than others understanding you.
Beautiful post Arpita… Your simplicity is the best part about you! 🙂
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Thank you so much Deepika! It’s great to find someone who ‘gets’ you. 🙂
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Oh my! What an honour to be mentioned in one your posts! I can’t even begin to tell you how flattered I feel. Thank you!
Again, it’s a wonderful post. You describe your feelings so clearly, eloquently.
And yes, the closest relationship I have is with myself. (And then with my husband.) I used to think I was weird. Now I think I’m just different (well maybe still weird – but I’m okay with that). 😀
Keep your great posts coming!
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Well, when I saw the quote I chose, right away your comment came to my mind. So I kinda had to share it. I like proving things, when I can 😀
I guess as we grow up and meet different people we realize we might not be as different as we thought we were. After I started blogging, and especially in the last few days with Writing 101, I have met so many people who think similarly as me. Sadly, I’d never know these people up close, never get to spend face time with them, and that’s a regret that I’ll have. The people near me are still the same that I described in my post. 😦
Thanks for reading and commenting, though! Look forward to your post today.
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That’s also what I found in the last few days of W101. I thought, “So *this* is where they’ve been hanging out!” It’s ok that we may not get to see one another in person. We’ll still have the wonders of technology to bring us together.
I’m working on my post now; will post the link in Commons once it’s ready.
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Yes, that’s right. And I’ll still be hoping that I eventually find a circle where I belong. I’ll find you in my Reader when you’re done. Have fun! 🙂
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An excellent post with a really good lead in and link to your previous post. Was really interested to see how you were going to approach it as I went for the same topic. I enjoyed your post and thought it was very well written. Thank you!
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Thank you so much for your appreciation. I’d surely check out yours! 🙂
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You really pour you heart out on your post, Appy so I cannot agree more. I am just glad that you are finally ‘home’. Just enjoy it, my dear because you are a lovely person. 🙂
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Aww, thank you Rose! 🙂 That’s so kind of you. I guess all the nice comments I received that day convinced me to be comfortable in my own skin.
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I’m glad that you can now embrace who you are. You are uniquely beautiful in your own way. So, just love yourself and believe in your heart! 😀
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I also want to hear your insightful thoughts on my take on this task, Appy! 😀
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Yes, I’ll surely check it out and let you know. 🙂
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Aw, this was a very good post. Spending some time and
actuazl effort to make a ttop notch article… but what can I say… I
hesiutate a lot and don’t seem to gget anything done.
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