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The beauty of being a woman

This morning I was in my flatmate’s room and saw the wonderful wall designs she has recently put up. I found the room tastefully decorated and personalized, with a lot of pictures of hers and twinkling electric lights. With its warm curtains, the room had a feminine touch to it.

Which made me go down the winding lanes of thoughts, where I was seeking the beauty of being a woman.

A woman decorates: herself and her surroundings. A good part of a woman’s day might go into grooming herself. She wants to pick the right dress, the right color, the right make-up, the right hair-do: All in order to add a perceived sense of beauty about her being. She does not limit it to herself: she also cleans her surroundings, buys pieces of art to decorate, works on DIY project.

She also like to cook the tastiest of food. She picks the fresh vegetables, finds the right spice to go in the right food and weaves magic in the kitchen.

She also focuses on the people around her. She wants her parents to be happy, her siblings to be happy, her boyfriend/husband to be happy, her children to be happy. She finds her happiness in being around people, in others’ happiness. She wants to stay connected to the thick pulses of happiness that flows when people are content.

She travels the world: she sees the mountains and reflects on the serenity of life; she sees the oceans and reflects on the constant flow of life. She watches the tall city-scapes that the generations have built and wonders how on a minute place in the universe, on Planet Earth, such a sophisticated life form – Homo sapiens – came to exist.

She also works in a typically man’s world. She challenges ideas, she argues, she confidently puts forth her point of view. She leads teams of people, nurtures them, wants them to grow with her.

Sometimes, she had bad days too. Her blue days. Her red days. Her blackest of days. Days when she does not want to smile, does not want to make others smile. Days when she looks out the window, into the trees where the squirrels run, and wishes she could just transform into one of them and live a carefree life for the rest of her days.

Today is one of the good days. Today, a girl is happy. Today, a woman is happy. Today, a daughter is happy. Today, a mother is happy. A sister, a lover, a wife. Happy.

Today is a good day.

Here’s to the beauty of womanhood and all the challenges it entails. Because it’s worth it.

Until later!

(c) 2017 Arpita Pramanick

Of Wiccan beliefs and feminine thoughts

I started reading The Wiccan Waltz by Pragya Vishnoi today. Pragya was one the beta reviewers of my second book, How I Tamed the Dragon Named Fear and I was happy to be able to give back by reviewing hers.

Since I have just started reading the book I can’t go into details about the plot, but the book sure got me interested to look up Wiccan beliefs. I spent close to an hour today watching videos about Wiccan culture.

I found it interesting how Wiccan beliefs stress on the power of the feminine energy. It got me thinking: fundamentally, would the world have been a better place if it were women who were the forefront, writing the history of the human civilisation? I am not a feminist. I believe in the equal rights of the individual irrespective of their gender. At the same time, I take pride in being a woman. In my own family I have seen how women have been the pillars of strength and how much they could sacrifice.

The male ego is that of a conqueror. They are the dominant force. Since women are go through the pains of labour, they are naturally inclined towards being vulnerable, providing and caring. Due to this, I feel naturally women are more tolerant than men in many cases. In today’s world of hate crimes and terrorism, maybe if our history was primarily written by women, we might have been a little more compassionate of other  people’s needs and not our victory over others.

Look forward to hearing your thoughts on this.

Happy weekend!

P.S: For those who likes some magic and fantasy, please give The Wiccan Waltz a try. As a first impression, I thought it was a well-written book. I will probably do a detailed review later. But if fantasy is your genre, you should definitely give it a try.