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How to form great habits? Part 2

Hey guys,

The other day I posted a few tips on how to form great habits. It got quite some positive feedback.

Today, I had a couple of other ideas in mind. These ideas, I feel, are very relevant to forming great habits and I did not want to miss out on capturing them and sharing with you guys. So here are the two additional tips:

  1. Pick one new habit at a time: We want to change a lot of things. The worst thing that prevents you from realizing all of them is trying them all at the same time. I think it is important to give our brains enough time to process why we are making one particular change and help it form into a habit, before trying out something else. Lately, I was writing an article (for work) on mindfulness. While researching for it, I realized I should start meditating on a regular basis. But then, I started my YouTube channel and every other new, good habit in my life went for a toss. So for now, I decided to let YouTube sink in, become part of my everyday life, before I go on and pick another great habit.
  2. While forming in a new habit, keep up with the other good things that are already part of your schedule: For example, even though the first thing I want to do after waking up in the mornings is watch videos on how to make better videos, I resist the urge and make sure I am going to the gym. I motivate myself saying, going to the gym will make me look fitter and prettier in the videos. Whatever it takes to trick the brain! Continuing with the 10 other good habits that you have is essential because it helps your mind not to get saturated with that one new habit and prevents burnout.

So, those were my two tips! Let me know in the Comments if you found them useful. I will see you in another blog post.

Until then, take care and have a blast! ❤

On the habit of observation and observation of habits


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Even three years ago I did not know which vegetable grew in which season (the fact that these days everything is available at all times via cold storage did nothing to help me either) or which flower bloomed of its own accord in which part of the year. I have always reveled in the beauty of the cotton rose growing in the neighbor’s garden, but could never recollect correctly when it bloomed. Similarly, I enjoyed my mother’s special lady’s finger preparation, but after six months could not exactly pinpoint the time when father brought the green finger-like things by the kilos from the market.

Only a very few, like the green peas or the marigold, were powerful enough to imprint the time of their existence in my mind.

When I went to college and started to live with people from different parts of the state, I realized the inefficacy that stared in my eyes like a terrifying chasm. My room-mates would often complain about the severe liquidity of the dal at dinner, the morbid tastelessness of the egg curry, and would easily identify when the salt was missing. The only thing that my mind seemed to register, however, was the scathing acridity of the chicken soup. That, I guess, was because my tongue had never been too friendly with the chilies.

However, this was only the start of the long list of things which I failed to see. When I saw a beautiful girl, the only word I knew to describe her was that – beautiful. On the other hand, my room-mate dissected with remarkable clarity the shape of the girl’s lips, nose and eyes, the color of her skin, her posture and her gait.

I would go by buildings and constructions failing to recount afterwards a single peculiarity in them.

What, in the name of the good Lord, was wrong with me? Why was I, who had been a relatively good student throughout school, failing to describe things which everyone else seemed to describe without an effort? What was this mysterious element which seemed to slip out of my grasp every time I attempted to hold it?

Solution began in the form of writing. When I started to write about someone, I needed to do better than what I were managing at that point of time. I needed to talk about the peculiarities of her behavior, the subtleties of her everyday manners. I needed to describe what colors she liked and which colors looked good on her. I needed to note how her eyes shone and her lips curved when her boyfriend called. I needed to describe the foods she ate. When I needed her to walk to her school, I needed to show which flowers were in bloom, what the color of sky was and how it was reflected in the building with glass panels, a difference, I might add, to the usual brick and wood stuff of the other buildings.

I realized then what was wrong. I was not observing.

I realized I used to come back from college, lost in my own thoughts all the time, never really bothering to look at the people around. Of all the eighteen years that I had lived with my parents, I never observed the patterns that bounded my family. I ate, but never bothered to check whether mom’s egg curry needed more salt. I was not consciously observing when my father brought which veggies. I was only doing things mechanically, never taking note of the little habits, the little patterns that were forming every day.

I did not see the difference until it shrieked itself to me, like an ugly black blot on a piece of white cloth. Or until someone pointed it to me.

Since that realization I have come a long way. As I have matured as an author, my writings have become more visual. When I started my first novel I probed the depths of my mind to find out the colors, the smells and the faces from my childhood. Once I was consciously concentrating I found that these images were locked in a safe cabinet in my mind. All it needed was a little prod. I have, since, queried my mother about certain facts from childhood that I recollected, and discovered to my utter delight that she had forgotten about them. That felt liberating, to say the least.

As an author, I realize now, it is very important to have an eye for observation. And observation of patterns and habits is perhaps the most important lesson in this class. Else, how would your protagonist describe the concentration with which her father read the newspaper every morning year after year, or how her mother reacted when she brought her first trophy from school?

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